I´ve been to various receptions recently. It´s part of our (clergy-)life.
Receptions can be quite nice to catch up with people. But they can be terribly booooring too. In fact, most receptions are more or less boring.
Long, not always funny, sometimes even tasteless speeches. Many speeches. And an other speech. Never ending speeches.
This requires some survival strategies.
I figured some out:
1) shoes
If there are any receptions make sure, you wear comfy shoes in which you can stand for a while. Most receptions are standing- only events. No high heels. Now new shoes.
I usually wear my „preaching-shoes“ because I know they are comfy enough to stand in.
2) clothes
Yes, also clothes can be a survival factor for receptions. Make sure you wear something comfy too. Something that doesn´t need adjustment every five minutes (no too tight shirts or blouses which fall open or even make their ways up the waist). Same goes for hair. Make sure it´s tucked away or doesn´t fall over your face once you talk to someone. Be aware of windy locations.
3) Handbags etc.
If you carry a handbag or backpack with you, make sure it is not too heavy. Particularly handbags can get terribly heavy after a while if you carry too much stuff (I know what I´m talking about). Doublecheck before the event if you will really need all the items your bag contains.
Make sure it has a shoulder-strap that doesn´t cut.
During the reception:
Make sure you have always a free hand. You will have to shake many hands.
If there are tables, make soure to find a place at a table- it doesn´t matter if they are bistro-style standing-tables or not. Well, the standing-tables make it easier to socialise as you don´t always have to get up to greet someone and then sit down again.
Once you´ve found a place at a table, you´ve made it. Almost.
The table is the place where you can easily park your glass if you are supposed to clap your hands politely.
It also helps you with the „hand-free“ rule.
And you can easily even store a plate if any food is offered and take a bite or two during speeches. (Don´t overload your plate. Looks greedy. Rather go twice).
It is often unlikely that you will have a chance to eat because of the small talk. Use the speeches. Just don´t eat too quickly, but a bite every now and then helps you survive all the speeches and fill your tummy.
Even if you´re bored to death- put on your „I´m a interested listener-face“. Works like a pokerface. Don´t yawn. Don´t make any comments, neither non-verbal not verbal.
Try to open your eyes, this gives you an impression as if you were terribly interested. Have a little smile on your face too- just as you dream yourself away to a place where you´d rather like to be at the very moment.
And: Every speech and every reception will have an end. Just believe in it.